CDC Study: More Men than Women Victims of Partner Abuse
National Study: More Men than Women Victims of Intimate Partner Physical Violence, Psychological Aggression
Women are more likely to be verbally and physically aggressive towards their partners than men suggests a new study presented as part of a symposium on intimate partner violence (IPV).
PSA about violence against men
More than one sexual partner and the odds of divorce go up significantly
More women are committing adultery today than reported doing so in the past. A 2010 survey by the National Opinion Research Center found that women are 40 per cent more likely to cheat today than they were 20 years ago. Some researchers think this is because more of them are in the workforce, and because more women today have jobs that require them to travel.
92 per cent of men said that their infidelity wasn’t about sex. The men said that their reasons for cheating were often emotional, such as feeling disconnected from or under-appreciated by their spouses.
Men are the TRUE romantics disguised as idealists whereas women are the idealists disguised as romantics
Research into the behaviour of 4,000 cheats claims women are more promiscuous, having an average of 2.3 secret lovers compared to a mere 1.8 for men.
They are also usually younger than men when they stray with the average female adulterer starting at 37 compared to 42 for men.
- 72 percent of men said sexual affairs were worse than emotional affairs.
- 69 percent of women said emotional affairs were worse than sexual affairs.
- 76 percent of women would forgive their partner for a strictly sexual affair
- Only 35 percent of men would forgive their partner for a strictly sexual affair.
- 80 percent of men said they would forgive an emotional affair.
- Only 30 percent of women would forgive an emotional affair.
A stunning 90 percent of adulterous wives told one Manhattan researcher they suffered “no guilt,” but rather felt “entitled” to the pleasure and excitement of their secret trysts,
60% have engaged in at least one extramarital affair
60% of cheating women seek a long-term affair
65% report that sex is better with the lover than the husband.
70% say their lover is the opposite of their husband.
45% remain in marriage after the affair
25% marry their lover
90% have no guilt, but feel entitled to the affair
According to Dr David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, women are having more affairs than ever – recent studies say the figure is around 20 per cent for men and a bit over 15 per cent for women – but they behave very differently from men when they cheat.
‘The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret,’ he says. ‘If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven’t been fathered by the man who thinks he’s the biological parent.’
Women who don’t sleep around before their wedding have happier marriages – but men can play the field without worry, study finds
- 53% of women who had slept only with husband felt satisfied in marriage
- Dropped to 42% if woman had more than 2 partners and 22% if more than 10
Sex and the stormtroopers: How French women fell for the Nazi invaders during the Second World War
Norah Vincent Lesbian who spends 18 months as a male
The “women are wonderful” effect is the phenomenon found in psychological research which suggests that people associate more positive attributes with the general social category of women compared to men. This effect reflects an emotional bias toward the female gender as a general case.
In Experiment 1, only women (not men) showed cognitive balance among in-group bias, identity, and self-esteem (A. G. Greenwald et al., 2002), revealing that men lack a mechanism that bolsters automatic own group preference. Experiments 2 and 3 found pro-female bias to the extent that participants automatically favored their mothers over their fathers or associated male gender with violence, suggesting that maternal bonding and male intimidation influence gender attitudes. Experiment 4 showed that for sexually experienced men, the more positive their attitude was toward sex, the more they implicitly favored women.
NINETEEN out of 20 women admit lying to their partners or husbands, a survey on attitudes to truth and relationships has found.
Eighty-three per cent owned up to telling “big, life-changing lies”, with 13 per cent saying they did so frequently.
45 per cent said they told “little white lies” most days.
Women are only nice when sex is on the mind as men find more caring women to be attractive
Nearly one in four British women would try to conceive without their partner’s consent if they wanted a baby, research suggests.
It found that 94% confessed to telling fibs, with 48% lying on a daily basis
The vast majority (84%) said they could lie with a clear conscience
Seven out of 10 women would instantly change their minds about leaving a boring man if he hit the lottery jackpot.
More than half (51%) would take the money if offered £10,000 to share their secrets with the world after bedding a famous footballer.
And 40% would accept £50,000 for their partner to sleep with another woman.
In surveys since the 1960s, men typically report having more sexual partners and than do women – a statistically impossible feat. For example, British men boast an average of 13 partners over a lifetime compared with an average of nine partners for women.
Women change their answers depending on whether or not they believe they will be caught out not telling the truth, the researchers found. The number of sexual partners a woman reported nearly doubled when women thought they were hooked up to a lie detector machine.
“Women are more sensitive to social expectations for their sexual behaviour and may be less than honest when asked about their behaviour in some survey conditions,” says Fisher, a psychologist. She says women appeared to feel under pressure to meet expectations of being more relationship-orientated and not promiscuous.
Women who thought their responses might be read said they had had an average of 2.6 sexual partners, compared with 3.4 partners for those who thought their answers were anonymous. But those who thought they would be caught out by the polygraph reported an average of 4.4 partners.
In contrast, men’s answers did not vary significantly. Those attached to the lie-detector reported an average of 4.0 partners compared with 3.7 for men who thought their answers would be read.
The researchers think the results explain the previously reported differences in men and women’s sexual behaviour, with women being afraid of getting labelled as “whores”.
The only truly scientific survey on this issue, which spoke to 18,876 men and women aged 16 to 59 in 1991, revealed that women were twice as likely to have had only one sexual partner during their lifetime than were men and five times as many men as women admitted to more than 10 sexual partnersSeven” has replaced “none” as the acceptable thing for a woman to say when asked such an intrusive question by social scientists. A long time ago women always used to say “none” and look outraged at the very nature of the inquiry. Then, 30 years ago, they started saying, “Oh, three or four.” Now, apparently, it’s “seven”.
- Survey found quarter of female university students lie about lovers
- 20 per cent reduce number so they look less promiscuous
- 12 per cent of male students exaggerate their sex number
- Average student said they’d slept with nine people
Of all the students questioned, the average number of people the men said they had slept with was 10 and the women 7.7, bringing the average number to nine.
But in light of the fact some had also admitted to lying about their sex number, the true amount could be higher for the women and lower for the men.
Other research on gender differences in romantic beliefs has found that men report being more likely to experience “love at first sight”4—one recent survey of 100,000 adults found that 48 percent of men claimed to have fallen in love at first sight, while only 28 percent of women made such a romantic claim.5 In addition, men, compared to women, tended to place a greater emphasis on the importance of feeling passion in their relationships.6 Men have also been found more likely to say “I love you” first in a relationship—and they report greater happiness than women after hearing those words for the first time.7
To make sense of these apparently counterintuitive gender differences, we can turn to evolutionary psychology. Women tend to be more pragmatic when seeking a mate.
Sorry to break this to you men, but half of all women have a back-up bloke
According to a recent Mail survey of 1000 married ladies, half of all women have a backup husband in mind should their current one break during use.
The view that men suppress female sexuality received hardly any support and is flatly contradicted by some findings. Instead, the evidence favors the view that women have worked to stifle each other’s sexuality because sex is a limited resource that women use to negotiate with men, and scarcity gives women an advantage.
“Sex is coveted by men,” she said. “Accordingly, women limit access as a way of maintaining advantage in the negotiation of this resource. Women who make sex too readily available compromise the power-holding position of the group, which is why many women are particularly intolerant of women who are, or seem to be, promiscuous.”
Stigmatizing female promiscuity — a.k.a. slut-shaming — has often been blamed on men, who have a Darwinian incentive to discourage their spouses from straying. But they also have a Darwinian incentive to encourage other women to be promiscuous.
Dr. Vaillancourt said the experiment and other research suggests
To see how female students react to a rival, researchers brought pairs of them into a laboratory at McMaster University for what was ostensibly a discussion about female friendships. But the real experiment began when another young woman entered the room asking where to find one of the researchers.
This woman had been chosen by the researchers, Tracy Vaillancourt and Aanchal Sharma, because she “embodied qualities considered attractive from an evolutionary perspective,” meaning a “low waist-to-hip ratio, clear skin, large breasts.” Sometimes, she wore a T-shirt and jeans, other times a tightfitting, low-cut blouse and short skirt.
They stared at her, looked her up and down, rolled their eyes and sometimes showed outright anger. One asked her in disgust, “What the [expletive] is that?”
Most of the aggression, though, happened after she left the room. Then the students laughed about her and impugned her motives. One student suggested that she dressed that way in order to have sex with a professor. Another said that her breasts “were about to pop out.”
A clear way that indirect aggression serves an individual’s goal is by reducing her same-sex rivals’ ability, or desire, to compete for mates. This is typically accomplished in a concealed way which diminishes the risk of a counterattack. Although indirect aggression is used effectively by girls and women in a manner that reduces the aggressor’s risk, it is not used without peril. Indeed, the derogation of a rival, which represents the most common way of aggressing against others indirectly , carries the risk of (i) calling men’s attention to the rival and thus increasing the number of competitors , (ii) signalling to others that you are unkind which may inadvertently lower your own mate value , and (iii) leading to a confrontation by the target which may escalate to physical aggression
Women are biologically wired to shed tears more than men. Under a microscope, cells of female tear glands look different than men’s. Also, the male tear duct is larger than the female’s, so if a man and a woman both tear up, the woman’s tears will spill onto her cheeks quicker. “For men and their ducts, it’d be like having a big fat pipe to drain in a rainstorm,” says Louann Brizendine, a neuropsychiatrist at the University of California, San Francisco.
The stuff they say makes no sense.”
“I see them hedge, making it up as they go along.”
“They lie all the time. I can tell.”
“No way it’s true. No one would act like that if it’s true.”
“They can’t get their story straight.”
Brian Banks case